14 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS PRIDE
- SPEAK SOFTLY
Don’t shout at him. He is not a child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone. - CORRECT HIM WITH LOVE
Correction should be done with love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you. - NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN FRONT OF FRIENDS
Stop criticizing him in front of your friends or family. That is very degrading to men, rather just whisper with a gently hug. Never criticize him publicly; it damages his self-esteem. Offer gentle corrections privately. - EQUAL PARTNERSHIP
Remember girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And so is your husband. Respect his input; decision-making should involve both of you. Don’t assume dominance. - ACKNOWLEDGE EFFORTS
Praise his achievements, no matter how small; it shows appreciation for his efforts. - DON’T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN
Avoid correcting him in front of the children; it undermines his authority as the head of the household. - MAINTAIN DIGNITY
Refrain from correcting your husband in public; it not only reflects poorly on your character but also undermines his self-esteem. Public correction may portray you in a negative light, lacking in grace and decorum. Like a mad dog without breeding. - AVOID CORRECTING IN ANGER.
Avoid correcting your husband when you’re angry, shouting, ranting, or resorting to physical violence. Never push him to the point where he feels the need to defend himself from your actions. This only exacerbates the situation, like pouring gasoline on a fire. Instead, suggest taking a walk together, hold his hand, and calmly discuss the issue at hand.. - DON’T COMPARE HIM WITH ANY OTHER MAN!
This is where jealousy stems from. By comparing him to other men when correcting him, you may inadvertently provoke feelings of inadequacy. Avoid phrases like “Can’t you be like Cheska’s husband?” or “Why can’t you be more like Adam in the Garden of Eden?” Remember, your husband is unique. Reflect on the qualities that attracted you to him during courtship, and cherish the love you once felt. - LET BYGONES BE BYGONES
There’s no reason to revisit past issues, dwelling on phrases like “Remember what you did before? I’ll never forget that!” Once problems are resolved, they should be put to rest, never to be resurrected. Mature individuals focus on the present matter, engaging in adult discussions and moving forward. - DON’T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD
“And you call yourself a man? A real man doesn’t behave like this. You better change before I have to change you!” This approach is not constructive. Ladies, we can’t change men; change must come from within and is motivated by love. Trying to change someone against their will is as futile as sculpting water—it simply can’t be done. - DON’T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY
Show your husband the utmost respect; it’s paramount. If you don’t respect your husband, you can’t expect your children to respect you either. - TIMELY CONVERSATIONS
Most wives tend to correct their husbands in the heat of anger, during misunderstandings, when tempers flare. However, this is not the most effective approach and often yields little to no results. Men, in general, have selective hearing and are more receptive to calm, low-toned communication. - OFFER ASSISTANCE
Collaborate positively; work together to achieve common goals. Assist your husband in tasks like changing a tire or fixing a broken table leg, offering support in a helpful manner. Avoid standing idly by as if you were an Egyptian pharaoh commanding slaves; instead, be an active participant in tasks, facilitating efficiency and teamwork. Remember, husbands are often doing their best; show appreciation and support their efforts to become better partners and fathers.
A truly empowered woman knows the importance of respecting men.
If you desire your husband to be a respected figure in your home and the community, create a peaceful and nurturing environment for him to thrive in.